80% of all birth mothers get the baby blues. The baby blues begin 3-5 days postpartum and tend to resolve within 2-3 weeks of onset. Mom may be tearful and sad.
Up to 20% —or 1 in 7— moms suffer from postpartum mood and anxiety disorders (PMAD) also known as postpartum depression and anxiety. These symptoms emerge during pregnancy, weeks, months, or up to a year postpartum, most commonly developing 2-3 months postpartum.
And get this, 10% of dads/partners also experience PMADS. In fact, when mom has a PMAD, her partner’s rate of having one also rises up to 50%! No wonder a staggering seventy-percent of parenting couples experiencing a decline in relational satisfaction following the birth of their first child. Postpartum depression and anxiety have a HUGE affect on marital satisfaction.
Research tells us that 83% of new parents experience distress during the transition to parenthood.
Wondering if you should seek support? Do you . . .
Have trouble sleeping?
Find you’re exhausted most of the time?
Notice a decrease in your appetite?
Have a hard time bonding with your baby or enjoying parenting?
Worry about little things that never used to bother you?
Wonder if you’ll ever have time to yourself again?
Think your family would be better off without you?
Feel guilty that you had a baby?
Have scary thoughts?
Worry that your partner will get tired of you feeling this way?
Snap at your partner and children over everything?
Think everyone else is a better mother than you are?
Cry over the slightest thing?
No longer enjoy the things you used to enjoy?
Isolate yourself from your friends and neighbors?
Fear leaving the house or being alone?
Have anxiety attacks?
Have unexplained anger or rage?
Have difficulty concentrating?
Think something else is wrong with you or your marriage?
Feel like you will always feel this way and never get better?
Most new parents will experience some of these feelings but if you answered yes to more than three of these question, you may have a PMAD. PMAD’s are a real and very treatable. You can feel good again.
Too often misinformation, uncertainty, shame, finances, embarrassment, or denial get in the way of parents getting the help they need. Don’t let that happen to you.