CONNECTFULNESS COUNSELING SPECIALTIES
Congratulations on taking this courageous step. I help people, just like you, who are struggling in relationships. Your struggle to let anyone else see you begins with a struggle to see yourself. It can be uncomfortable to slow down and give yourself permission to be seen and see yourself. The magic ripples forth from here though —when you can identify what you feel, want and need— that’s where Connectfulness begins…
I work with individuals and couples of diverse sexual, ethnic and religious backgrounds.
Do you feel like you can’t find the love you crave? Or maybe it’s right there in front of you and you struggle to let it in. You're stuck in a loop of feeling unseen, unheard and misunderstood in love and relationships. It doesn’t feel good and you know it doesn’t have to be this way. You too can find love and enjoy relationships. You just might need a little support along the way, because it’s very likely that the relationship in the most need of repair, is your relationship…with you.
You and your partner get caught in a cycle of connection and disconnection. We all like to think that we can avoid the mess of disconnection in relationships. But we can’t. The simple truth is that relationships are difficult. As you and your partner seek a deeper, more sustainable connection, you must also allow often necessary and powerful times of disconnect – even when that’s horribly uncomfortable to do. Here’s a secret: Happy couples fight. They just do a somewhat better job of it than unhappy couples. And a big part of that “better” lies in their repair skills. It’s in the repair process that we grow.
Sex is an essential part of being human and an integral aspect of connecting in love relationships. Sex feels good and helps you connect deeper with your partners and yourself. It’s not always easy though, in fact, many people develop sexual difficulties. I work with individuals, couples, and moresomes of diverse sexual, ethnic and religious backgrounds to help address sexual issues that arise.
If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. And Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage. Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help–and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage. I'll help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and
You feel like you’re in a “crisis of not knowing,” and you’re not alone in this. Though you long to be the change you wish to see in the world, you're stuck in a fear loop. You know that your own personal healing will help you find the strength and the resources you are seeking. Together we dive into how you see yourself; your feelings, your observations of your shadows, and your relationships. You learn how to trust your own intuition. You build confidence in your own inner guidance through gentle observation of yourself.
You want to create a nurturing environment for your family. You want to be available to those who depend on you, but you also need to receive nurturing. In truth, the motherhood journey exposes your human vulnerabilities; your own unmet needs may resurface when you begin to tune into the needs of your child. It’s all too easy to lose your connection with your most essential source of wisdom: your own intuition. Ideally, you strive to strike a balance between your child’s needs, your own needs, and the needs of the rest of your family. More typically, however, you find yourself attending to whomever seems to have the most compelling needs and, in the process, often risk losing track of other family members...and yourself.
We dive into that messy space between personal and professional, because the messy middle is exactly where you live. That’s where the growth happens. As a therapist or a healer who is dedicated to both personal and professional well-being, you often feel like you’re holding two powerful sets of priorities. Though it may feel that these are two different worlds, there is really no separation. Both the personal and the professional are powerful facets of YOU, and the richness of your humanity emerges when you find a way to let these elements mix. Your ongoing growth and satisfaction rely on integration. And that begins with seeing yourself, your dreams, and your goals...and how it all interweaves.