CONNECTFULNESS® COUNSELING SPECIALTIES
Congratulations on taking this courageous step. I help people, just like you, who are struggling in relationships. Your struggle to let anyone else see you begins with a struggle to see yourself. It can be uncomfortable to slow down and give yourself permission to be seen and see yourself. The magic ripples forth from here though —when you can identify what you feel, want and need— that’s where Connectfulness® begins…
I work with individuals and couples of diverse sexual, ethnic and religious backgrounds.
You feel like you’re in a “crisis of not knowing,” and you’re not alone in this. Though you long to be the change you wish to see in the world, you're stuck in a fear loop. You know that your own personal healing will help you find the strength and the resources you are seeking. Together we dive into how you see yourself; your feelings, your observations of your shadows, and your relationships. You learn how to trust your own intuition. You build confidence in your own inner guidance through gentle observation of yourself.
A powerful "no bullshit approach" model of therapy that helps couples and individuals make their relationships work by targeting the problem relational behaviors and underlying reasons within family of origin issues and past traumas and then teaches important and healthy relational skills. Couples will typically see significant results in the first few sessions.
Sex is an essential part of being human and an integral aspect of connecting in love relationships. Sex feels good and helps you connect deeper with your partners and yourself. It’s not always easy though, in fact, many people develop sexual difficulties. I work with individuals, couples, and moresomes of diverse sexual, ethnic and religious backgrounds to help address sexual issues that arise.
You and your partner get caught in a cycle of connection and disconnection. We all like to think that we can avoid the mess of disconnection in relationships. But we can’t. The simple truth is that relationships are difficult. As you and your partner seek a deeper, more sustainable connection, you must also allow often necessary and powerful times of disconnect – even when that’s horribly uncomfortable to do. Here’s a secret: Happy couples fight. They just do a somewhat better job of it than unhappy couples. And a big part of that “better” lies in their repair skills. It’s in the repair process that we grow.
Parenthood is a transformational journey and it can also leave you feeling lost and depleted. Parents often encounter complicated emotions and recover old memories that feel uncomfortable. In truth, being a parent exposes your human vulnerabilities and shifts your relationships. It’s all too easy to lose your connection with your most essential source of wisdom: your own intuition. Ideally, you strive to strike a balance between your child’s needs, your own needs, and the needs of the rest of your family. More typically, however, you find yourself attending to whomever seems to have the most compelling needs and, in the process, often risk losing track of your partner, other family members...and yourself.