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We’re all born with a built-in relational ecosystem, but most of us aren’t taught how to tend to it. Not knowing how to connect within, we look to outside sources for guidance, acceptance, and recognition.
You feel unsure of yourself, constantly wondering if you’re actually doing what you want to be doing. You get thrown by every little thing your partner does. You wonder why everyone is able to have good relationships except you. You try your best, but you end up filled with resentment. You find yourself at the mercy of the people around you, responding to their wants, needs, and desires, while your wants, needs, and desires slowly slip out of the picture.
My work is all about stepping back into conscious stewardship of your relationships ecosystem so you can connect with yourself, others, and your work from a place of grounded power that’s firmly rooted in you, and only you.
If you want to step off a reactionary way of relating — you've got to start by restoring your relationship with you. By coming back to your body you’ll meet the wisdom of your nervous system. Because it’s all there. Your deepest, most expansive self is there, just waiting to be trusted. It’s just gotten covered up by all the other crap we all deal with: false beliefs, stories that no longer serve, and a society that’s deeply, radically disconnected.
To root back into your most powerful self takes an integrated methodology that addresses every aspect of that self. Connectfulness® blends research-based practices that get to the heart of relationship issues, helps you develop skills to integrate them, and leaves you with practices that help you discern how you show up in relationships.
Offerings
Relationship Intensives
A 20-hour deep entry into your healing journey. We’ll identify and deepen your understanding of the patterns you replay on autopilot, and develop skills to practice of tending to the parts of you that need tending, rather than foisting them off on others.
Experiential Workshops
Opportunities to reflect, explore, and reshape how you relate to your Self. Each workshop is steeped in relational practices for you explore, deepen into, and nurture with the important people in your life.
Podcasts
I host and produce a few podcasts to help listeners deepen into the journey of relational healing and restore connection to self, others, and the world.
Therapist Consultation
I offer group and 1:1 consultation for therapists interested in incorporating experiential modalities for relational trauma healing that promotes states of embodied learnings, restore connection, and promote intergenerational health on a felt sense level.
Somatic Relational Therapy
please note: my therapy practice is at capacity.
I blend powerful integrative modalities for relational healing and trauma resolution to help you access and trust your innate healing process so you bring the most authentic version of your Self into relationship with skill and nuance.
“There’s an old saying that goes, Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind. This saying is a good compass for boundary work. Many of us are taught to be nice, to not hurt others by sharing our truth. That is a formula for disconnection. When we risk being clear with others, we have feelings of both fear and empowerment, such as nervousness, worry, clarity, relief, joy, and authenticity. When we do not risk being clear with others, we have the feelings that go along with hiding our truth: self-doubt, resentment, longing, shame, anger, loneliness, and sadness. These feelings, if unresolved and unchecked, are likely to prompt behaviors full of contempt and defensiveness, or actions that are unloving. Boundaries help us to clearly communicate who we are, in alignment with our values. It may seem paradoxical, but boundaries help us to connect to others. Doing boundary work is an act of love for both self and other people.
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