Loved joining Liz Higgins, host of the Millennial Life podcast, to talk about Relational Life Therapy, or simply Living Relationally, a super relevant way of looking at intimate partnerships. In this discussion we specifically talk to millennials.
““Family pathology rolls from generation to generation like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person, in one generation, has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to his ancestors, and spares the children that follow.” ”
topics we cover in the episode:
Repairing trust
RLT deals with the power dynamic within a relationship
We are misguided and have been focusing on our worth from what’s coming from the outside in, trying to prove ourselves, rather than acknowledging our inherent worth
Successful relationships require deep inner self work
When we don’t do the work, we pass it down
Passing it down doesn’t only mean to our children - it means we bring it into all relationships we encounter in our lives
You can’t have true, real intimacy in a relationship where one person has power over another
Intimacy starts with knowing yourself, loving yourself, protecting yourself, and being able to share yourself with another
“waking up” is a realization of self in which we explore, see, recognize, and acknowledge what happened and how it is effecting us in our relationships
Judgement is a form of contempt
The opposite of judgement is curiosity
