A 20-hour immersive journey into embodied relational healing
This seven-session intensive is designed to build safety, momentum, and meaningful change. Rooted in relational trauma work and a neurobiological approach, each journey supports individuals, partners, or systems ready to shift patterns and reconnect more sustainably.
Intensives offer a concentrated, personalized experience. Held over seven sessions, I invite you to slow down as we gently attend to the patterns that shaped your ways of relating, with yourself and others. Whether you come alone, with a partner, or as part of a relationship system…this is a space just for you.
We’ll move at the pace of trust. Gently exploring protective strategies your system developed over time. We’ll listen for what’s ready to shift and begin cultivating new ways of being that support connection, coherence, and self-trust.
This offering encompasses a 20-hour relational healing series structured across seven gently-intense sessions: four cour core sessions (3.5 hours each) offered in close succession over two to three weeks, followed by three integration sessions (2 hours each) to support real-life application.
This format supports both momentum and depth. Unlike weekly therapy, which can become a space to rehash and report, intensives offer immersive time to engage with the felt sense of your relational patterns. Experiential learning supports neural integration. You’ll develop personalized micro practices that strengthen your brain’s capacity to stay regulated in moments of stress and relate from a more connected, grounded place. This helps you respond with clarity and integrity when it matters most.
Rather than analyzing or fixing, we’ll explore your systems’ historical protective patterns and explore where system updates emerge to better meet the present moment can be nurtured and supported. The work is experiential, rooted in modalities including Somatic Experiencing (SE), Internal Family Systems/Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFS/IFIO), Relational Life Therapy (RLT), and Deep Brain Reorienting (DBR), all held within the neurobiological framework of the STAIR Method.
You’ll learn through felt-sense experiences and begin to build micro practices you can return to when things feel messy or overwhelming. The key to how these practices take root is circling back to what your system says YES to practicing again and again. Not in the hard moments at first, just practicing. Like you would any skill you want to master, through deliberate practice. Like playing the piano, or juijitsu, or golf.
It’s not ongoing clinical care. It’s a short-term, immersive experience designed to help you cultivate your own internal capacity. We’re not pathologizing behaviors or diagnosing issues. We’re making sense of historical patterns through a survival lens, listening for the wisdom in your reactivity, and co-creating practices that support integration, clarity, and choice.
Many people find they make more movement in an intensive than they have in years of therapy, because the emphasis here is on developing personalized, brain-savvy micro practices that you’ll return to again and again in your real life. This is not insight-only work. We will get you out of your head and promote relational learning states. It’s experiential, lived, felt, and practiced in relationship — with yourself and others.
If you’re already in therapy, this work can be a powerful complement. If you’re not, this can be a supportive standalone experience if you feel ready to turn toward tending to the parts of you that hold unmet needs rather than foisting them on others to deal with when they act out/in.
In this work, you’ll expand your capacity to stay present with discomfort, reflect on long-held patterns, and practice showing up with more honesty, care, and choice, even when it’s hard.
You may be drawn here because you’re craving meaningful, embodied change in how you relate to yourself and others. Perhaps you sense that old patterns no longer serve you and want to meet them with compassion. You might be seeking more coherence between your values and your reactivity, or feel ready to explore your protective system gently, without pathologizing.
If you’re open to a body-based, experiential approach to relational healing that moves at a different pace than traditional therapy and offers practical tools you can bring into daily life, this work may be the next right step.
This space welcomes adults of all identities, backgrounds, and relationship structures. What matters most is your willingness to meet yourself and your patterns with honesty and curiosity.
You can’t think your way out of relational pain. But you can learn to relate to your experience differently.
We’ll develop withnessing skills. Steady, compassionate practices that tend to what’s happening inside you without judgment or overwhelm. These are not one-time insights. They’re practices that evolve with you.
We’ll explore how early survival strategies live on in present-day interactions. You’ll begin to notice when you’re pulled into autopilot, and learn how to pause, make sense of your inner landscape, and reorient with more choice and connection.
This work invites you to stay present in moments that once felt overwhelming, painful, or confusing — so you can respond instead of react, connect instead of collapse, and show up with more integrity in your relationships.
This immersive format is designed to support nervous system safety, sustained focus, and real integration. Across seven thoughtfully paced sessions (four immersion and three integration) we create the conditions for deep experiential learning, reflection, and practice. You’ll have room to notice what arises, space to metabolize it, and guidance to return to what matters.
This is depth offered at a digestible pace. The intensive format reflects how adults actually learn: through meaningful experience, personal relevance, and repeated, embodied practice. Each session blends felt-sense exploration with just enough explanation to support understanding, then returns you to the work itself.
This rhythm supports self-directed integration. You are the one living this change. What you practice in session will be deeply connected to what matters most in your life, making the work both practical and transformative. It is why the format is built this way: to help you absorb the work, build trust in your own capacity, and carry it forward into real relationships, real challenges, and real healing.
Healing happens over time, through repeated experience and practice. That’s why three integration sessions are included — to support you as your familiar patterns re-emerge in daily life. These sessions offer a place to reflect on what’s unfolding, strengthen your new practices, and reconnect with your intentions.
While I don’t offer ongoing weekly therapy, we can schedule occasional drop-ins or explore future intensives. I’m also happy to help you find ongoing care if that becomes part of your next step.
If you’d like to begin preparing gently, I recommend reading Setting Boundaries That Stick by Juliane Taylor Shore, joining one of my upcoming workshops, or listening to episodes of my past podcasts. These resources offer insight and grounding for the experiential work we’ll do together.
Hi, I’m Rebecca.
I’ve been walking alongside people in their relational healing journeys since 2003. My work blends neurobiology, somatic practices, and deep relational presence. I believe your system holds wisdom. I trust what unfolds when we meet it with care.
I’m certified in the STAIR Method and Somatic Experiencing, Relational Life Therapy, and Developmental and Relational Trauma Therapy, and trained in Internal Family Systems, Intimacy From The Inside Out, and Deep Brain Reorienting.
I trust the wisdom of your system to guide us toward what feels out of alignment, supporting you in cultivating greater self and relationship trust, a felt sense of okayness, deeper integrity, and more coherence.
I live in New York’s Hudson Valley, on the ancestral land of the Lenape people, with my partner, our teens, and a few mischievous four-legged companions. I’m a neurospicy cis woman shaped by a diasporic lineage, attuned to patterns of oppression, justice-seeking, and resistance. I find joy in hiking, fantasy novels, deep conversations, and slowing down.
I would be honored to walk this part of your journey with you.
The full 20-hour intensive experience includes:
▸ Four core sessions (3.5 hours each) — 14 hours total
▸ Three integration sessions (2 hours each) — 6 hours total
▸ $6,000 total investment (includes a $1,000 non-refundable deposit)
▸ Sessions held in-person (New Paltz, NY), online, or hybrid
How many people take part in the intensive?
This is a space designed for just you — or you and those you’re in relationship with. We focus on your personalized healing journey.
Where do sessions take place?
Sessions held in person (New Paltz, NY), online, or a hybrid of both. We’ll choose what works best for you.
What’s the investment?
$6,000 total. A $1,000 deposit holds your spot and is applied toward the full cost. Intensives are not billable to insurance.
Is this for me/us?
It may be if you’re seeking meaningful relational change, if weekly therapy isn’t meeting your needs, or if you feel ready to explore protective patterns with depth and compassion. If you’re carrying pain or urgency that needs focused attention, or if you’re simply drawn to a deeper pace of work — this container can meet you there.
You can attend alone or with a partner. What matters most is your readiness.
Can this save our relationship?
The simple answer is I don't know. To really answer this question we'd have to explore what each of you wants. If you’re willing to show up with curiosity and courage, and commit to practicing the skills you learn in our deep dive, this work can absolutely support your clarity, connection, and next steps — whatever they may be.
Will this improve our communication?
Most couples come in thinking communication is the issue. But more often, the work is about learning to support your nervous systems when things feel hard, not just finding the right words. That’s because when you’re activated, your ability to communicate tends to go offline. In this work, you’ll learn to track your internal state, return to connection, and relate from a more grounded, regulated place. From there, communication naturally improves.
Can we do a retreat-style version?
Possibly. I’ve collaborated with local resorts in the past. You’d be responsible for your accommodations, and rates may adjust depending on location. If that’s of interest, we’ll explore what’s possible.
We’re not in crisis, we just want to grow. Is this still a fit?
Yes. Intensives aren’t just for crisis. They’re for deepening relational connection, insight, and integrity — wherever you are on your journey.
Can I do this alone, without a partner?
Absolutely. We’ll explore how your internal system and protective strategies shape your relationships, with yourself and with others, and support you in moving toward more trust, clarity, and coherence.
How can I/we prepare?
I suggest reading Setting Boundaries That Stick by Juliane Taylor Shore, attending one of my workshops, or listening to my past podcasts. These help build context and readiness for the work ahead.
Will I be able to work with you weekly after the intensive?
No. My therapy practice is full, and I don’t offer ongoing weekly sessions. If continued support feels aligned, we can explore follow-up intensives or occasional drop-ins. I’m also happy to refer you to trusted colleagues for ongoing care, if that becomes part of your next step.
What’s your cancellation policy?
If you cancel within 30 days of your scheduled start date, the $1,000 deposit is non-refundable. If you cancel with more than 30 days’ notice, you’ll receive a refund minus a $100 admin fee. You’re welcome to switch from a couples intensive to an individual one if needed.
I am happy to schedule a 20 minute call with you to discuss and answer whatever I can.
