I’m Rebecca Wong and I love nothing more than helping people get real and reconnected in their relationships.

I’m a trauma therapist and educator who specializes in integrative modalities for somatic relational trauma resolution. I’m on a quest to help folks heal the legacy of transgenerational trauma, increase trust in the wisdom of their protective systems, and develop Connectfulness® practices that support relational wellness for generations to come.  

All of my life, I’ve been fascinated by what it means to human together.

My curiosities have driven me deep into the study of art, film and storytelling, experiential learning, relationships, sexuality, the human reproductive life cycle, the transmission of intergenerational trauma, parenthood, attachment, loss and human behavior, and performance. And the same drive has guided me to deepen my professional studies.

I’ve been practicing as a psychotherapist since 2003. My work blends modalities for relational trauma healing. I’m a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Internal Family Systems therapist, Relational Life Therapist and Facilitator, Developmental and Relational Trauma Therapist, and am excited to be among the first cohort certified in new neurobiological approach called the STAIR Method. I blend these modalities together in an integrative, body based, brain savvy, experiential relational practice I call Connectfulness®.

I reside in New York’s Hudson Valley on unceded Lenapehoking land with my husband, our teens, and a handful of four-legged furry mischief-makers. I maintain a private therapy practice online serving folks (18+) in the states of New York, Colorado, and Massachusetts. I’m a neurodivergent cis white woman. I go by the pronouns she/her/they.

My experiential teaching style draws from a range of leadership experiences over the past few decades ranging from my days as an experiential wilderness educator to facilitating writing workshops for TMI Project and co-facilitating relationship workshops. (You can find all the nitty gritty deets here.)

I’m all about a compassion filled, no-bullshit approach: because let’s be honest, if good intentions, happy thoughts, and paint-by-numbers relationship strategies worked, we’d all have perfect relationships. We’re humans, working on relationships with other humans, in real life. And sometimes that’s messy. But it’s so worth it. Because you know what? The work you do on your relationship is just one part of a bigger picture.

After about 20 years of practice as therapist, I’ve figured out the not-so-secret secret.

Everything we are and everything we do comes back to relationship. Our relationship with ourselves, which informs our relationships with the people around us. And our relationships with others which inform how we relate with ourselves. Both.

And it just so happens that when you address the ways you experience disconnection, you also end up growing trust in yourself, developing the insights and skills you need to address the discord in your relationships, and expand your capacity to navigate rupture and repair.

I’ll help you develop your very own moment by moment, imperfect, messy practice. I call it Connectfulness.

Look, you will never have the perfect relationship, totally unshakeable trust in yourself 24/7/365, or the best possible mindset every second of your life.

Life happens — but that’s the whole point.

Your work doesn’t lie in controlling and contingency planning your life and relationships into perfection. It’s in remembering, honoring, and coming back to yourselves.

It’s in learning how to do this that you return to connection with who you really are. And when you start returning to relationship with the self, restoring your relationships with those around you, and rippling out to create healing relationships on a global scale.

So if you’re ready to get real about your relationships, lean in to your legacy, and come back into connection with yourself, let’s talk.

REBECCA’S NITTY GRITTY DEETS

New York Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW-R) #076600

Colorado Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) CSW.09926033

Massachusetts Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (LICSW) #122605

Masters in Social Work, New York University (2003)

Bachelors in Fine Arts, Ithaca College (1997)

Internal Family Systems, level 1, December 2023-April 2024.

Certified STAIR Method Therapist (2024), under the mentorship of Juliane Taylor Shore

Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (2023), approved SE Training Assistant (currently assisting SEI Faculty, Shideh Lennon’s Kingston NY cohort), approved SE personal session providers for beginning level SE students.

Certified Developmental and Relational Trauma Therapist through Healing Our Core Issues Institute (2021)

Certified Relational Life Therapist (2019), Facilitator/Supervisor (2022), & Bootcamp Instructor (2020).

Archetypal and Cross-Cultural Studies Institute under Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Original Voice®: Dark Night of the Soul, Rising Up Into the Light (2018), Heart of the Wounded Healer: Walking in Two Worlds as Way of Life (2019)

Former Advisor/VP Board of Directors, Therapy Aid Coalition

Additional Post Graduate Training with:
Discernment Counseling
The Center for Sexual and Relationship Therapy at RWJ Medical School under Sandra Leiblum, PhD
The Postpartum Stress Center under Karen Kleinman
Seleni Institute
The Gottman Institute
International Institute for Animal Assisted Play Therapy™
American Board of Sports Psychology

Graduate Fellowship at Memorial Sloan Kettering

Additional training in leadership and experiential education with Outward Bound and Project U.S.E. and with TMI Project as a Workshop Leader