I’m Rebecca Wong, a relationship therapist, mentor and consultant to therapists and change-making professionals, and host of the Practice of Being Seen podcast. I live in New York’s Hudson Valley with my husband, our two daughters and 3 four-legged-furry-mischief-makers.
My mission is to help you believe in yourself, enhance your relational skills, and find more connection and fulfillment in your life and relationships.
Let’s be real, we are living in uncertain times and relationships are insanely hard. Add in the complexities of relationships that grew you up + the messiness of modern life.
This messy journey is an integral part of being human. It’s what you come across when you search for meaning and connection in a world full of suffering and uncertainty.
My humanity stirred me to create Connectfulness® -my signature method- a research based practice of exploring and embracing every aspect of your humanity, including the marvelous and messy. I understand the mess and complexity of modern life. The mess can trigger a lifetime of “stuff.” I’ve sifted through my own narratives and explored my own pain. I’ve dug deeper in search of a-ha moments.
In my 4+ decades of being human and my 2+ decades of studying humanity, I've discovered the most common shared human concerns are about the state of our relationships and legacy.
Modern relationships face unique challenges.
Modern challenges are the exploration of my work. We're not talking about the sort of love relationships modeled for you in childhood. They didn't contend with the sort of distracted, over-connected, hypervigilant, post-truth world we now reside in. Your most intimate everyday relationships trigger you to the core and present you with two choices; to grow together or apart.
It's hard to embrace and experience connection in your everyday relationships if it wasn’t modeled to you from the beginning. (Before you start blaming your parents, or anyone else, keep in mind, they did their best.)
Let's put curiosity back at the core of the modern relationships, home and community by cultivating safe spaces for relationships to fail, rebuild and strengthen. Wisdom comes from being able to learn together. Vulnerable moments become opportunities for growth enabling you to take responsibility and reclaim your story of connection.
The not-so-secret secret: sustaining healthy relationships is a practice.
It’s about being open to seeing your own patterns both in how you treat yourself and how you treat others. It helps you change your relationship patterns so that everyone feels seen, safe, and heard.
In my quest to find meaning, I’ve driven deep into the study of art, film & storytelling, experiential learning, relationships, sexuality, the human reproductive life cycle, trauma, parenthood, attachment, loss and human behavior, and performance.
Through this journey into creativity, well-being & relationships, I’ve discovered the meaning we make of our life’s story is where it all comes together. Staying engaged in the process of discovering that meaning is often our greatest challenge.
Luckily, there’s an easier way: it begins with a connectfulness practice
As you develop new relational skills and resculpt your patterns with new eyes, you're curiosity over what works and what doesn’t grows. You’re making space for compassion, intimacy and ability to slow down and capture the littlest moments.
We can collectively learn, grow and lean into the possibility of leaving behind a more resilient and compassionate planet then we were born into. When you truly see yourself you create a ripple effect. It allows you to be the change you wish to see in the world. And invites those around you to do the same.
My Nitty Gritty Deets...
New York State Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW-R) #076600
Masters in Social Work, New York University 2003
Bachelors in Fine Arts, Ithaca College 1997
Post Graduate Training with Terry Real in Relational Life Therapy, International Institute for Animal Assisted Play Therapy™, The Doherty Relationship Institute, Seleni Institute, The Gottman Institute, The Postpartum Stress Center under Karen Kleinman, The Center for Sexual and Relationship Therapy at Robert Wood Johnson Medical School under Sandra Leiblum, PhD, The American Board of Sports Psychology under Dr. Carlstedt, CrossFit & Outward Bound.
TMI Project Workshop Leader