Boundaries and Edges this Friday in Gardiner NY

Dear Ones,

I’ve been feeling the weight of the world deeply in my body. Leaning in deeply to Andrea Gibson’s poem Good Grief…

Let your
heart break
so your spirit
doesn’t.

These times are intense. We are living through so much turmoil and a daily onslaught of nervous system overwhelm. The impact of which is bound to show up in our most intimate relationships by way of frazzled edges, shorter fuses, and more push pulls for control.

I invite you to feel the weight of the moment. Let the grief, the gravitas, the gravity of it all orient you.

This Friday our Relationally Rooted series continues with a workshop on Boundaries and Edges from 4:30-8p at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner and we still have room for you to join us.

Last month, a group gathered for Turning Toward, the first session of The Relationally Rooted Series. We began by noticing how discomfort shows up in each of us: what it feels like in our bodies, what we do or say in response, what it sounds like when we listen. Cultivating a micro-practice of noticing, turning toward, inquiring what discomfort wants us to know, meeting it well. Then turning towards it again to sense how discomfort feels toward us and how we feel toward it.

This Friday we’ll revisit the arc we built in the Turning Towards session and build from that scaffold in our work with Boundaries and Edges. Discomfort teaches us something about our edges. About what doesn’t feel okay. This information helps us establish internal boundary practices that help us to stay grounded and feel more okay, especially in challenging relational moments.

Healthy boundaries aren’t about what others do or don’t do. They help you sense what feels okay, what doesn’t, and hold your limits with care, clarity, and congruence. When your boundaries align with your values and intentions, they help you stay connected and build trust in yourself.

Then on Friday November 21st, we land the series with our last session Rupture and Repair.

We need these relational practices now more than ever. Ways of being together that help us trust ourselves and our capacity to be with what’s hard. A being with that reminds us our our humanity and helps us navigate forward with intention and integrity.

With love,
Rebecca ♡

Geography of Grief Gathering at 12:30p eastern today

Hello Sweet Humans,

In case you may be able to join today, Monday, October 13th, from 12:30–1:30 PM, I’m hosting another free virtual Geography of Grief Gathering.

This is an invitation to gather, not to figure things out. To practice being in relationship with what is emerging. We’ll notice sensations, thoughts, and emotions as they arise. We’ll be with grief in community, witnessing it together. The grief we bring may be personal, relational, social, systemic, environmental…any loss,  disorientation, or aloneness you may be feeling. Together, we’ll make space to be with what is often taken for granted, question what we’ve been taught to trust, and feel into what sits comfortably and what does not. Our shared presence itself is a regulatory, relational practice.

This gathering is open to all who may be interested, feel welcome to share with anyone in your community who may benefit.

Preregister for a link to join us today at 12:30p Eastern.
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/dCSZXKbLRlOU2oHq-O2oiA#/registration

I am planning to offer these gatherings every other month and share about upcoming gatherings in this newsletter.

I hope those who wish to can join us.

With warmth,

Rebecca ♡

October Musings + Two Ways to Gather

Hello Sweet Humans,

This morning I hold grief for humanity in my awareness. Accompanying grief I notice a deep sense of steadiness. I’m realizing more and more how important it is to cherish moments of presence, especially in the midst of what is so hard.

The brain is a prediction machine, which means the more we notice and celebrate curious internal states, the more we help wire them in. They become easier to access as anchors. They help to turn toward the growing pain, isolation and injustice in the world with a deepened sense of internal okayness and presence.

On September 26, a group of us gathered for the first session of The Relationally Rooted Series: Turning Toward. It was a powerful, emergent space of collective learning. While I can’t capture the depth of what we experienced together, I can share the arc we mapped to guide our exploration of how we relate to discomfort in body, mind, and nervous system.

We began by noticing how discomfort shows up in each of us. What it feels like in our bodies. What we do or say in response. What it sounds like when we listen. And what it wants us to know once it feels heard. As we got to know discomfort more intimately, compassion grew. From there, we cultivated a micro-practice: noticing, turning toward, inquiring what discomfort wants us to know, meeting it well. Then we turned back again to sense how discomfort feels toward us and how we feel toward it. This soft of layered embodied relational work is best integrated experientially.

On Friday, October 24 (4:30–8:00 PM), we gather again for Boundaries and Edges in The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner, NY. We’ll explore the edge of how we expand our capacity to be with what is and how we relate to the wisdom of our boundaries and edges.

We’ll continue to practice being in relationship with discomfort rather than reflexively avoiding it as a scaffold for transformational shifts. Discomfort becomes our teacher. It invites us to explore our vulnerabilities and edges with compassion and care, to notice what is tender, and to be intentional in how we set up our boundary practices.

Then we’ll dive deeper still, on Friday, November 21, as we again gather to explore Rupture and Repair.

You’re invited to join for one or both of the remaining sessions.
Learn more and register here: https://connectfulness.com/relationally-rooted-series. And if you’re interested in a future virtual series, reply to this email so I can keep you in the loop.

Also, our free Virtual Geography of Grief Gathering is happening Monday, October 13, from 12:30–1:30 PM EST. This is an invitation to gather, not to figure things out, but to practice being in relationship with what is emerging. To notice sensations, thoughts, and emotions as they emerge. To be with grief inside community and be with it, allowing it to be witnessed. To notice what is taken for granted, to question what has been taught to trust, and to feel into what sits okay, and what doesn’t. Our shared presence itself is a regulatory, relational practice.

Register here for the link to join:
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/dCSZXKbLRlOU2oHq-O2oiA#/registration

I’d love to share these learnings with you and deepen in community.

With warmth,

Rebecca ♡

Turning Toward, this Friday in Gardiner NY

Hello Sweet Humans,

It’s me again. I’ve been writing more often than usual. Partly because I’m inspired to share this offering, and partly because the world feels heavy to witness alone. Naming the weight we each carry in some way feels coherent. Uncertainty, fear, disconnection, discomfort, grief…they ripple through us all. It’s part of the human condition. If things feel hard, remember, there’s nothing wrong with you.

Humaning is hard. Being inside the overwhelm and the stuck is hard. And in turning toward what feels hard together, we begin to rehumanize what feels worn down: our ability to choose, connection, joy, vitality. There are ways of relating to what feels hard that can offer support, clarity, and orientation inside the hard. We can practice reclaiming that space in-between, between stimulus and response.

This Friday, September 26th, from 4:30-8p at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner NY, we will gather for the first session of our Relationally Rooted workshop series. There is space for you to join us . Whether you drop in for one session or move through the full series.

Our first session is all about Turning Towards what is hard without abandoning yourself. We’ll play with presence and craft practices to carry you long beyond our time together.

If you want to plan ahead, here’s the rest of the series:
Boundaries and Edges on Friday October 24
Rupture and Repair on Friday November 21

Learn more and register at connectfulness.com/relationally-rooted-series

With warmth,
Rebecca

PS: I am still collecting names of those interested in a future virtual series. Simply reply to this email if you’d like me to keep you in the loop.

And if you haven’t yet listened to my recent conversation on The Going Inside podcast, I invite you to. While it’s geared a bit toward therapists, it’s meaningful for all. We talk about how grief itself can offer a gentle portal into deep healing. You can listen here.

We begin a week from Friday: The Relationally Rooted Series

Hello sweet humans,

A gentle reminder: next Friday, September 26th, kicks off the Relationally Rooted Series. We’ve got space for you!

I admit, I’ve been a bit distracted of late (who hasn’t—there’s so much in the world right now) and I haven’t gotten the word out as widely as I hoped. Would you help me spread the word?

We begin with presence.

Session 1: Turning Toward invites you to reconnect with your Self in a way that feels steady and true. When things become murky, overwhelming, or unclear, it’s easy to lose contact with yourself. Here, we practice returning.

Through experiential, brain-informed somatic practices, you’ll build micro-practices that support staying with your internal experience, holding complexity, and remaining open without abandoning yourself. These practices help you stay connected in the moments that matter most.

Relationally Rooted Series Schedule:
Session 1: Turning Toward on 9.26.25
Session 2: Boundaries and Edges on 10.24.25
Session 3: Rupture and Repair on 11.21.25

You’re welcome to join us for one session or for the full series.

We gather from 4:30-8p at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner NY. A meal will be incorporated into our time together as an intentional, tending practice in community space. Bring a meal that feeds you or plan to place an order with Benton (onsite) when we gather.

Learn more and register at connectfulness.com/relationally-rooted-series

With warmth,
Rebecca

PS: I know not everyone can join us in person in Gardiner, NY. I’m gathering names for a possible virtual series, simply reply to this email if you’d like me to keep you in the loop.

And if you’re curious about what I mean by Turning Toward and would like to dive a little deeper into my approach, I recently joined John Clarke on his Going Inside podcast for a conversation on this very theme. It’s geared a bit toward therapists, but may be meaningful for all. We talk about how grief itself can offer a gentle portal into deep healing. You can listen to our conversation here: johnclarketherapy.com/podcast/hidden-power-of-grief-rebecca-wong

When healing is held in relationship space

a gentle invitation to explore the patterns that shape how we connect

Hello beautiful human,

I've been thinking about a theme that's been showing up in my work with folks over these past 20 years: there is a profound difference between healing in isolation and healing in the container of relationship.

So often, we embark on inner work as if we exist in a vacuum. It's true that we were wounded, and cause wounding, in relationship. And it's also true that healing is held in relationship.

Introducing the Relationally Rooted Series

This season, I'm offering a workshop series I've been dreaming up for years, honoring the relational nature of who we are. Somatically. In our bodies. In our nervous systems. In the spaces between us.

We'll explore…
…how early relational patterns live in your body and show up in your adult connections
…the wisdom of your nervous system and how it's been protecting you all along
…practices for developing relational presence, the capacity to be authentically you while staying connected to others
…tools for turning toward tender places where you've experienced aloneness and misunderstanding

This is about coming home to the relational being you've always been, underneath all the protective patterns that made sense once upon a time.

We're living through a time of unprecedented disconnection. We're carrying historical imprints of familial and social systems and cultural patterns that taught us to prioritize productivity over presence, performance over authenticity.

And still, your nervous system remembers how to be in healthy relationship. We just need to create the right conditions for that remembering to emerge.

This series weaves together everything I've learned from decades of sitting with people in their most vulnerable moments. It's:
▹ more than cognitive, it’s somatic, relational, and experiential
▹ trauma-informed, honoring your wise protective knowings
▹ shared power-with, acknowledging the impacts of how systemic oppression shapes our capacity for connection
▹ designed with different nervous system needs in mind

We'll work with the body, and practice being in relationship. Between you and you, with me, and with the others who join us on this journey.

If you're interested in relational healing, you belong in this space.

The Relationally Rooted Series, offers building blocks to stack and grow, centering experiential practices that support presence, connection, and repair. It's an in-person 3 workshop series, held on Fridays from 4:30p-8p at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner, NY.
You're welcome to join a single session or move through the full series.

▹▹ Turning Toward | 9.26.25 Practices for presence, inner connection, and staying with what matters without abandoning yourself inside hard moments.

▹▹ Boundaries and Edges | 10.24.25 Practices for clarity, congruence, and relational integrity to help you sense, honor, hold and trust your internal boundaries.

▹▹ Rupture and Repair | 11.21.25 Practices for holding complexity inside moments of disconnection to help you return to a felt sense of okayness, presence and repair, within yourself and your relationships.

If you've made it this far, perhaps something in your system is saying yes. I'd be deeply honored to walk with you on this relational healing journey.

With warmth and presence,
Rebecca

P.S. - I offer an equitable fee scale and trust you to choose the pricing tier that genuinely reflects your financial capacity while contributing to the sustainability of this work. Plus $25 off when you register for all three workshops in the series together.

About Rebecca Wong, LCSW

Rebecca has been walking alongside people in their relational healing journeys for over 20 years. Her work weaves together somatic practices, relational presence, and trust in the wisdom of your nervous system. She's trained in The STAIR Method, Somatic Experiencing, Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Intimacy From The Inside Out, and Deep Brain Reorienting, among other modalities. Rebecca lives in New York's Hudson Valley on Lenape land with her partner, teens, and handful of four-legged mischief makers.

🍂 This Fall, Turning Inward

Hello Sweet Humans,

As I write you, the world feels especially heavy. Many of us are carrying grief that reaches far…encompassing personal loss, the sorrows of the world, unmet needs, shifting expectations, and what we carry in our bones. It makes sense that our nervous systems remain on alert, caught in near-constant activation.

As stress and shock increase, the skills of maintaining and caring for our boundaries are essential. The personal and collective need for repair, for presence and holding, becomes clearer. Relational healing doesn’t happen in a vacuum.

With the inward directionality of the fall, I'm opening containers for grief and growth. The offerings below come from a belief that, in times of crisis, the soul-work of tending to our capacity to be with ourselves and each other crystalizes.

If you’re seeking ways to be less overwhelmed, to be held by community, or to explore what you’re ready to turn toward, there’s space for you here.

The Relationally Rooted Series

An experiential series of three practice-based workshops to meet and tend to your nervous system, sense into your boundaries, and expand your capacity for repair. Join any single session or move through the full series:

Turning Toward · Friday, September 26 · 4:30–8p
Boundaries & Edges · Friday, October 24 · 4:30–8p
Rupture & Repair · Friday, November 21 · 4:30–8p
In Person at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner, NY

Each gathering integrates micro-practices you can carry into daily life.

Consultation Groups for Therapists

Two small-group cohorts beginning September

An invitation to build community while exploring the sticky patterns in your work. Increase self-trust, deepen resilience for you and your clients, and shift your relational presence. Feel more supported in therapeutic challenges, welcome both your therapist and human selves, and lessen the aloneness common in this work. As your guide, I’ll lean into principles from The STAIR Method to inform our process, weaving in neurobiology and experiential learning.

Mondays · 1–3p ET · September 8 to December 15 (8 sessions)
Thursdays · 2-4p ET · September 11 to December 4 (6 sessions)
Zoom

Groups are limited to 6–8 clinicians each.

Experiential Relationship Intensives

A 20-hour immersive journey into embodied relational healing

Intensives offer a concentrated, personalized, guided experience to slow down and attend to the patterns that shaped how you relate to yourself and others. Whether you come alone, with a partner, or as part of a relationship system...this is a private space just for you. We'll move at the pace of trust, gently exploring protective strategies your system negotiated over time. Listening through a neurobiological lens for what's ready to change and imagine into new ways of being that support the growth of connection, coherence, and self-trust within your system and relationships.

4 core sessions (3.5 hours each) + 3 integration sessions (2 hours each) = 20 hours over 7 sessions
in New Paltz, NY, online, or a hybrid of both based on what works best for you.

The Geography of Grief

A free virtual gathering to explore grief together

A space to move beyond overwhelm and shutdown, to simply be with whatever is alive inside right now, in real time and in community. No agenda. No performance. Just an open, supportive space to feel into, experience, and be with what is emerging within and between us. After the success of our August gathering, I'm hoping to gather us for the Geography of Grief every other month. Free.

Monday, October 13 · 12:30-1:30pm EST
Zoom link provided after registration

When systems of oppression are present, our capacity to be with, our presence, is called upon in the choices we make about what we turn toward, and what we turn away from. After all, we humans have experienced both harm and healing in relationship: with ourselves, with others, with community, and our planet.

Each of the offerings above provides a way to tend overwhelm. Orient within yourself. And to strengthen your capacity to choose what to turn toward, or away from.

I hope to help us resource ourselves so we can be with what is, while imagining into what's possible. To meet grief with witness. To hold heartbreak and hope. To notice the next emerging moment. And to respond with care and clarity.

If you feel called to any of these offerings and have questions, please reach out. And if you know someone who might benefit, please share.

In care and courage,

Rebecca

Being with Gravity, Complexity, and Presence

Hello Sweet Humans,

You know this. In this moment, the ground beneath us is shifting in ways that challenge us to witness, hold, and move forward differently. These shifts stir old patterns of separation, fear, and longing that shape how we relate to ourselves, each other, and the world. Our power and voice are stronger collectively, in community. Yet after a season of isolation, the urgency to gather and meet what is alive within us and between us can feel overwhelming and uncertain. I hope to cultivate spaces for practice and complexity, to tend and root ourselves well in this moment, and to deepen the work of turning toward what’s hard with care.

The Geography of Grief — FREE Gathering

🗓️ This Tuesday, August 12 · 7–8:30pm ET
📍 Zoom (register to receive the link)

A gentle virtual gathering to explore the geography of grief together. This space invites us to move beyond overwhelm and shutdown to simply be with whatever is alive inside right now, in real time and in community. No agenda. No performance. Just an open, supportive space to feel into, experience, and be with what is emerging within and between us.

The Relationally Rooted Series

An experiential series of three practice-based workshops to meet and tend to your nervous system, sense into your boundaries, and expand your capacity for repair. Join any single session or move through the full series:

🗓️ Turning Toward · Friday, September 26 · 4:30–8p
🗓️ Boundaries & Edges · Friday, October 24 · 4:30–8p
🗓️ Rupture & Repair · Friday, November 21 · 4:30–8p
📍 In Person at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner, NY

Each gathering integrates micro-practices you can carry into daily life.

Consultation Groups for Therapists

Two small-group cohorts beginning September

An invitation to build community while exploring the sticky patterns in your work. Increase self-trust, deepen resilience for you and your clients, and shift your relational presence. Feel more supported in therapeutic challenges, welcome both your therapist and human selves, and lessen the aloneness common in this work. As your guide, I’ll lean into principles from The STAIR Method to inform our process, weaving in neurobiology and experiential learning.

🗓️ Mondays · 1–3p ET · September 8 to December 15 (8 meetings)
🗓️ Tuesdays · 11a–1p ET · September 9 to December 16 (8 meetings)
📍 Zoom

Groups are limited to 6–8 clinicians each.

From the Archives

If you want to deepen your understanding of how decontextualized trauma lives in our bodies and ripples through our communities, I invite you to check out the work of Resmaa Menakem, somatic abolitionist and author of My Grandmother’s Hands, The Quaking of America, and Monsters in Love. His work remains deeply relevant to the moment we are in, as does this conversation we recorded six years ago.

The constellation of these offerings strives to cultivate spaces where we can practice presence.

Presence is a revolutionary and necessary personal action we can all mobilize to witness ourselves, others, and the world around us without turning away. It supports us in staying connected through hard moments, both to ourselves and to one another.

We invite the gravity of this moment to help us feel into what roots us as the ground shakes. Remembering that we belong to ourselves and to one another in ways that recontextualize our humanity, deepen our care, and meet this moment with presence and resilience.

May we hold the hard with kindness, moving together with courage and tenderness.

May the fullness of this week’s Sturgeon Moon energy offer us space to witness, root, and move with what is alive within and between us.

In care and courage,

Rebecca