Dear Ones,
Two years ago the US Surgeon General released a report on our epidemic of loneliness. The report notes, “Throughout history, our ability to rely on one another has been crucial to survival. Now, even in modern times, we human beings are biologically wired for social connection. Our brains have adapted to expect proximity to others.”
On some level, we all feel and recognize this loneliness epidemic. It lives in the relational systems that raised us. Systems that may have oriented us toward power over or power under ways of relating. Patterns that remain familiar even inside the distance they create.
Inside that distance, it’s common to avoid potential ruptures. Walking on eggshells. Trying not to hurt others by holding back our truth. But ruptures are an important part of relationship.
They aren’t mistakes to fix or avoid. They are invitations to notice our edges, slow down, and meet ourselves and each other. They help us learn about relational needs, tend to what doesn’t feel okay, and evolve together.
Rupture and repair invite us toward something different. They shift us toward a practice of sharing power with. They ask us to stay present enough to feel into what is emerging while remaining connected to ourselves. It is through repair that we begin to share power. This is the path of deepening trust and intimacy. Inside the rumble, not despite it.
In the last workshop of our Relationally Rooted series, Rupture + Repair, we’ll explore what happens when connection feels hard. We’ll practice staying present in charged moments without abandoning ourselves, notice how our nervous systems respond, and develop small practices that help us respond rather than react. Alone or with a partner, this session will guide you toward micro practices that support relational responsiveness and deeper trust.
We’ll gather Friday, November 21 from 4:30 to 8 PM at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner, NY. A shared meal will be part of our time, a chance to tend ourselves in community. We’d love for you to join us.
With love,
Rebecca ♡
