talking to kids about sex

Last week I was interviewed for a super fun piece to be published in the May issue of the Poughkeepsie Journal's Living & Being Magazine about how and when to start talking to kids about sex.  This is one of my favorite subjects!

It's all about encouraging open discussion.

It's not about a single talk, or even twelve dozen. But it does begin early on.  As early as you start to teach your children what to call his nose and her eyes, you are also sending messages about what they should call their body parts and how comfortable to be with all these parts of themselves and in talking about them with you. Just like a belly button is a belly button and an ear is an ear. A penis is a penis and a vulva is a vulva.

Giving children language is the one of the earliest steps we take in promoting open communication and self acceptance. Both of which are integral in our development as healthy relational beings.

Humans are driven towards connection from birth. We thrive in connection. Our drives to attach to others and create love bonds are strong, biological and deeply rooted in our survival. Sexuality ensures our species survival, it is a biological drive that reinforces our bonds with others.

Children are sponges, they pick up and take in how you interact with others, especially your mate. As children grow into adults they mirror the relationships they absorbed early in life. This influences their identity. Just as it did for each of us.

What kind of relationships do you want for you children to grow into?

Those are the relationships you want to be living now —and if you aren't yet that's ok— take note and begin crafting a sustainable plan towards being who you want to become. This is where you have influence over who your children will become. Be it. The healthier you are, the healthier they are.

So, sex. Do you dream that when your children grow up they will be healthy adults in healthy sustainable relationships? Do you encourage your children to come to you with questions and curiosities as they arise or do you prefer they explore their curiosities with peers? It's human nature to be curious and to seek intimate connections, that is how we learn and grow. Creating an open dialogue encourages your children to keep you involved and helps yo stay attuned to their curiosity. Your parent/child relationship is the first intimate relationship they will experience and they will model all future relationships off the intimacy you share.

Often when parents feel ashamed, embarrassed or uniformed about sex (or any topic for that matter) they inadvertently close down dialogue before it begins. And that's unfortunate.

In my work with parents, couples and teens I have a unique window to witness how parents own discomfort around sex, sexuality, intimacy and relationships in general are mirrored in their children and with that window comes an opportunity to help re open the dialogue, at any age. It's no secret that I love my work.

Want to learn more? Join our FREE Informational Session for Parents.

Talking to your Kids about S.E.X.: tools to help parents create open dialogues with kids of all ages. 6:30PM Thursday, April 23rd at Bambini Pediatrics.

We have limited space. RSVP here.

Talking to Kids about Sex
Talking to Kids about Sex

Mindful Mama Retreat

I am incredibly excited to share my passion: maintaining intimacy and connectfulness with your partner as a part of an awe-inspiring line up in at the Mindful Mama Retreat.

If you know a mama who may like to join us {maybe you?}, please share this with her!

You manage it all: runny noses, packing lunches, loads of laundry, classes and playgroups, commuting, meetings, emails, phone calls, friends, family, sibling relations, tears, naptime, diaper changes, hugs and kisses, high fives, doctor’s appointments, healthy meals, birthday parties, bath time, repeatedly reading a favorite book, nighttime comforting.

After all you give to others, take some time to care for and replenish yourself!

Mindful Mama Retreat will provide you with space and support for mindful reflection, connected community and inspired growth. You will walk away refreshed and invigorated, fully equipped to live fully and thrive as a mother, a person, and a partner!


The retreat features 4 powerful and inspiring women who want to share tools and insight to help you live your best life as your happiest and most fulfilled self.


♥ Become a Grounded and Peaceful Mama through Yoga with Hunter Clarke-Fields ♥ Maintain intimacy and connectfulness with your partner with Rebecca Wong, LCSW ♥ Incorporate simple practical, doable, Mindful Self-Care practices into your life with Sheila Pai ♥ Explore your creativity through the beauty of art and writing with Lizzy Spohr Russinko

Date: May 16, 2015 Time: 8:30 registration, 9 am – 5 pm retreat Location: Open Connections, 1616 Delchester Road, Newtown Square PA 19073

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