I have a small, little relationship hack for you.
John Gottman says that 69 percent of the time, all of the fights that you have in your relationships are going to be perpetually unresolvable.
What if instead of looking at fight, we look at the core issue underneath the fight? What if we started noticing the things that you're really thinking, things that are triggering you?
Things like "I feel like I don't matter" or "I don't feel like I could ever do good enough."
What if we get down to those issues and we help you to tune into them yourself? And we help you to help your partner tune into what's really coming up for you. How would that change the quality of your fights? How would that change the dynamics between the two of you and help you both feel more heard and understood?
I hope you enjoyed this relationship hack, I'm hoping to make Relationship Hack into a regular video series and bring more of these little bits to you on the regular.
I'd love to hear from you in the comments below.
I invite you to share your input with me, let me know what resonates and what you want more of. And if there are any questions you want me to cover in future videos...ask!
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