003: Erotic Simmering and Lasting Love with Stephen Snyder MD

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Dr. Stephen Snyder joined me to talk about keeping erotism simmering in long term relationships. 

Dr. Stephen Snyder is a sex and relationship therapist, Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City, and the author of the acclaimed sex and relationship book, LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship.

 In this episode, Dr Snyder and I discuss: 

  • The nature of desire and why you don’t need it. 

  • Why we make ourselves crazy trying to cultivate desire.

  • How we can practice a-tuning ourselves to our long term partners through mindful moments of inspiration. 

  • Why frustration is a good thing in relationships.

  • The ticket to keep a long term erotic connection simmering: getting dumb and happy with your partner.

  • How to be seen, speak up, and find your voice. 

  • Selfishness + making it easy. 

  • Taking selfish joy in the other person’s existence inside the bedroom.

  • Outside the bedroom, being able to assert what you need, think and feel even when the other needs thinks and feels something different; this creates the core of the couples confidence and creativity together. 

  • Why pressure tends to make the erotic mind rebel. 

 

RESOURCES:

Find Dr Snyder online at loveworthmaking.com and sexualityresource.com

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