When conflict arises in our relationships, what does it mean to shift from 1st consciousness to 2nd consciousness? It has a lot to do with shifting from a preoccupation of the self into self-awareness of our own “going up” and “going down” as well as curiosity about other perspectives. This alone is a complex conversation, but believe it or not, it’s one that can be grasped and practiced quicker than you’d think. And once you have an understanding of it, it’s like someone’s turned a light on and you realize there’s so much more you can see clearly. Full disclaimer though: this is only the beginning! Self-awareness and 2nd consciousness is a life-long practice with many more lightbulbs to turn on along the way. Like all new things, it’s wobbly and awkward at times. Perfection just isn’t a thing when it comes to being human. (Does that disappoint you to hear or does it release you?)
Vickey Easa and I love musing on these things and we really dig in this week on the podcast. Tune in as we talk about the message perfection is really sending, both inwardly and outwardly, why contempt is always the thing behind being less than or better than, and how Vickey and I are both still working on all of this in our own lives.
RESOURCES:
Learn more about Vickey Easa at VickeyEasa.com and download her free guide at YourDecisionDiva.com
And, if you haven’t already, be sure to check out our podcast, W,hy Does My Partner, that Vickey and I cohost along with our dear friend and colleague Jules Shore.
Ready to transform your relationship? Join Vickey, Jules and me at our upcoming Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp on Nov. 20 & 21. Registration closes Nov. 9.
If you enjoyed this episode and want to dive in deeper, Rebecca has a few online offerings to deepen your relational skills and expand your Self care. Learn more at connectfulness.com