This Friday: Rupture + Repair

Dear Ones,

There’s something I want you to know. Working through the hard stuff isn’t what drains us. It’s the turning away that wears us down.

When we turn toward the hard relational moments, when we turn toward ourselves, even in the smallest ways, something softens and opens. Compassion. Self-trust. Space.

That’s what we’ll explore together this Friday, November 21 from 4:30 to 8 PM in Gardiner, NY. Tiny, playful experiments. Micro-practices you can actually feel In your body. Ways of staying with yourself while you engage with what matters.

You don’t have to make things that matter smaller. You don’t have to learn any of this alone. You aren’t meant to. We get hurt in relationships, and we heal in them too. This group is tender and brave like that. You may find your own courage reflected back in someone else, and they may find themselves in what you choose to share.

If you’re wondering what might shift for you as we explore rupture and repair… come find out.

With love,
Rebecca ♡

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Rupture + Repair: when connection feels hard

Dear Ones,

Two years ago the US Surgeon General released a report on our epidemic of loneliness. The report notes, “Throughout history, our ability to rely on one another has been crucial to survival. Now, even in modern times, we human beings are biologically wired for social connection. Our brains have adapted to expect proximity to others.”

On some level, we all feel and recognize this loneliness epidemic. It lives in the relational systems that raised us. Systems that may have oriented us toward power over or power under ways of relating. Patterns that remain familiar even inside the distance they create.

Inside that distance, it’s common to avoid potential ruptures. Walking on eggshells. Trying not to hurt others by holding back our truth. But ruptures are an important part of relationship.

They aren’t mistakes to fix or avoid. They are invitations to notice our edges, slow down, and meet ourselves and each other. They help us learn about relational needs, tend to what doesn’t feel okay, and evolve together.

Rupture and repair invite us toward something different. They shift us toward a practice of sharing power with. They ask us to stay present enough to feel into what is emerging while remaining connected to ourselves. It is through repair that we begin to share power. This is the path of deepening trust and intimacy. Inside the rumble, not despite it.

In the last workshop of our Relationally Rooted series, Rupture + Repair, we’ll explore what happens when connection feels hard. We’ll practice staying present in charged moments without abandoning ourselves, notice how our nervous systems respond, and develop small practices that help us respond rather than react. Alone or with a partner, this session will guide you toward micro practices that support relational responsiveness and deeper trust.

We’ll gather Friday, November 21 from 4:30 to 8 PM at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner, NY. A shared meal will be part of our time, a chance to tend ourselves in community. We’d love for you to join us.

REGISTER HERE

With love,
Rebecca ♡

Boundaries and Edges this Friday in Gardiner NY

Dear Ones,

I’ve been feeling the weight of the world deeply in my body. Leaning in deeply to Andrea Gibson’s poem Good Grief…

Let your
heart break
so your spirit
doesn’t.

These times are intense. We are living through so much turmoil and a daily onslaught of nervous system overwhelm. The impact of which is bound to show up in our most intimate relationships by way of frazzled edges, shorter fuses, and more push pulls for control.

I invite you to feel the weight of the moment. Let the grief, the gravitas, the gravity of it all orient you.

This Friday our Relationally Rooted series continues with a workshop on Boundaries and Edges from 4:30-8p at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner and we still have room for you to join us.

Last month, a group gathered for Turning Toward, the first session of The Relationally Rooted Series. We began by noticing how discomfort shows up in each of us: what it feels like in our bodies, what we do or say in response, what it sounds like when we listen. Cultivating a micro-practice of noticing, turning toward, inquiring what discomfort wants us to know, meeting it well. Then turning towards it again to sense how discomfort feels toward us and how we feel toward it.

This Friday we’ll revisit the arc we built in the Turning Towards session and build from that scaffold in our work with Boundaries and Edges. Discomfort teaches us something about our edges. About what doesn’t feel okay. This information helps us establish internal boundary practices that help us to stay grounded and feel more okay, especially in challenging relational moments.

Healthy boundaries aren’t about what others do or don’t do. They help you sense what feels okay, what doesn’t, and hold your limits with care, clarity, and congruence. When your boundaries align with your values and intentions, they help you stay connected and build trust in yourself.

Then on Friday November 21st, we land the series with our last session Rupture and Repair.

We need these relational practices now more than ever. Ways of being together that help us trust ourselves and our capacity to be with what’s hard. A being with that reminds us our our humanity and helps us navigate forward with intention and integrity.

With love,
Rebecca ♡

Geography of Grief Gathering at 12:30p eastern today

Hello Sweet Humans,

In case you may be able to join today, Monday, October 13th, from 12:30–1:30 PM, I’m hosting another free virtual Geography of Grief Gathering.

This is an invitation to gather, not to figure things out. To practice being in relationship with what is emerging. We’ll notice sensations, thoughts, and emotions as they arise. We’ll be with grief in community, witnessing it together. The grief we bring may be personal, relational, social, systemic, environmental…any loss,  disorientation, or aloneness you may be feeling. Together, we’ll make space to be with what is often taken for granted, question what we’ve been taught to trust, and feel into what sits comfortably and what does not. Our shared presence itself is a regulatory, relational practice.

This gathering is open to all who may be interested, feel welcome to share with anyone in your community who may benefit.

Preregister for a link to join us today at 12:30p Eastern.
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/dCSZXKbLRlOU2oHq-O2oiA#/registration

I am planning to offer these gatherings every other month and share about upcoming gatherings in this newsletter.

I hope those who wish to can join us.

With warmth,

Rebecca ♡

October Musings + Two Ways to Gather

Hello Sweet Humans,

This morning I hold grief for humanity in my awareness. Accompanying grief I notice a deep sense of steadiness. I’m realizing more and more how important it is to cherish moments of presence, especially in the midst of what is so hard.

The brain is a prediction machine, which means the more we notice and celebrate curious internal states, the more we help wire them in. They become easier to access as anchors. They help to turn toward the growing pain, isolation and injustice in the world with a deepened sense of internal okayness and presence.

On September 26, a group of us gathered for the first session of The Relationally Rooted Series: Turning Toward. It was a powerful, emergent space of collective learning. While I can’t capture the depth of what we experienced together, I can share the arc we mapped to guide our exploration of how we relate to discomfort in body, mind, and nervous system.

We began by noticing how discomfort shows up in each of us. What it feels like in our bodies. What we do or say in response. What it sounds like when we listen. And what it wants us to know once it feels heard. As we got to know discomfort more intimately, compassion grew. From there, we cultivated a micro-practice: noticing, turning toward, inquiring what discomfort wants us to know, meeting it well. Then we turned back again to sense how discomfort feels toward us and how we feel toward it. This soft of layered embodied relational work is best integrated experientially.

On Friday, October 24 (4:30–8:00 PM), we gather again for Boundaries and Edges in The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner, NY. We’ll explore the edge of how we expand our capacity to be with what is and how we relate to the wisdom of our boundaries and edges.

We’ll continue to practice being in relationship with discomfort rather than reflexively avoiding it as a scaffold for transformational shifts. Discomfort becomes our teacher. It invites us to explore our vulnerabilities and edges with compassion and care, to notice what is tender, and to be intentional in how we set up our boundary practices.

Then we’ll dive deeper still, on Friday, November 21, as we again gather to explore Rupture and Repair.

You’re invited to join for one or both of the remaining sessions.
Learn more and register here: https://connectfulness.com/relationally-rooted-series. And if you’re interested in a future virtual series, reply to this email so I can keep you in the loop.

Also, our free Virtual Geography of Grief Gathering is happening Monday, October 13, from 12:30–1:30 PM EST. This is an invitation to gather, not to figure things out, but to practice being in relationship with what is emerging. To notice sensations, thoughts, and emotions as they emerge. To be with grief inside community and be with it, allowing it to be witnessed. To notice what is taken for granted, to question what has been taught to trust, and to feel into what sits okay, and what doesn’t. Our shared presence itself is a regulatory, relational practice.

Register here for the link to join:
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/dCSZXKbLRlOU2oHq-O2oiA#/registration

I’d love to share these learnings with you and deepen in community.

With warmth,

Rebecca ♡

Turning Toward, this Friday in Gardiner NY

Hello Sweet Humans,

It’s me again. I’ve been writing more often than usual. Partly because I’m inspired to share this offering, and partly because the world feels heavy to witness alone. Naming the weight we each carry in some way feels coherent. Uncertainty, fear, disconnection, discomfort, grief…they ripple through us all. It’s part of the human condition. If things feel hard, remember, there’s nothing wrong with you.

Humaning is hard. Being inside the overwhelm and the stuck is hard. And in turning toward what feels hard together, we begin to rehumanize what feels worn down: our ability to choose, connection, joy, vitality. There are ways of relating to what feels hard that can offer support, clarity, and orientation inside the hard. We can practice reclaiming that space in-between, between stimulus and response.

This Friday, September 26th, from 4:30-8p at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner NY, we will gather for the first session of our Relationally Rooted workshop series. There is space for you to join us . Whether you drop in for one session or move through the full series.

Our first session is all about Turning Towards what is hard without abandoning yourself. We’ll play with presence and craft practices to carry you long beyond our time together.

If you want to plan ahead, here’s the rest of the series:
Boundaries and Edges on Friday October 24
Rupture and Repair on Friday November 21

Learn more and register at connectfulness.com/relationally-rooted-series

With warmth,
Rebecca

PS: I am still collecting names of those interested in a future virtual series. Simply reply to this email if you’d like me to keep you in the loop.

And if you haven’t yet listened to my recent conversation on The Going Inside podcast, I invite you to. While it’s geared a bit toward therapists, it’s meaningful for all. We talk about how grief itself can offer a gentle portal into deep healing. You can listen here.

We begin a week from Friday: The Relationally Rooted Series

Hello sweet humans,

A gentle reminder: next Friday, September 26th, kicks off the Relationally Rooted Series. We’ve got space for you!

I admit, I’ve been a bit distracted of late (who hasn’t—there’s so much in the world right now) and I haven’t gotten the word out as widely as I hoped. Would you help me spread the word?

We begin with presence.

Session 1: Turning Toward invites you to reconnect with your Self in a way that feels steady and true. When things become murky, overwhelming, or unclear, it’s easy to lose contact with yourself. Here, we practice returning.

Through experiential, brain-informed somatic practices, you’ll build micro-practices that support staying with your internal experience, holding complexity, and remaining open without abandoning yourself. These practices help you stay connected in the moments that matter most.

Relationally Rooted Series Schedule:
Session 1: Turning Toward on 9.26.25
Session 2: Boundaries and Edges on 10.24.25
Session 3: Rupture and Repair on 11.21.25

You’re welcome to join us for one session or for the full series.

We gather from 4:30-8p at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner NY. A meal will be incorporated into our time together as an intentional, tending practice in community space. Bring a meal that feeds you or plan to place an order with Benton (onsite) when we gather.

Learn more and register at connectfulness.com/relationally-rooted-series

With warmth,
Rebecca

PS: I know not everyone can join us in person in Gardiner, NY. I’m gathering names for a possible virtual series, simply reply to this email if you’d like me to keep you in the loop.

And if you’re curious about what I mean by Turning Toward and would like to dive a little deeper into my approach, I recently joined John Clarke on his Going Inside podcast for a conversation on this very theme. It’s geared a bit toward therapists, but may be meaningful for all. We talk about how grief itself can offer a gentle portal into deep healing. You can listen to our conversation here: johnclarketherapy.com/podcast/hidden-power-of-grief-rebecca-wong

When healing is held in relationship space

a gentle invitation to explore the patterns that shape how we connect

Hello beautiful human,

I've been thinking about a theme that's been showing up in my work with folks over these past 20 years: there is a profound difference between healing in isolation and healing in the container of relationship.

So often, we embark on inner work as if we exist in a vacuum. It's true that we were wounded, and cause wounding, in relationship. And it's also true that healing is held in relationship.

Introducing the Relationally Rooted Series

This season, I'm offering a workshop series I've been dreaming up for years, honoring the relational nature of who we are. Somatically. In our bodies. In our nervous systems. In the spaces between us.

We'll explore…
…how early relational patterns live in your body and show up in your adult connections
…the wisdom of your nervous system and how it's been protecting you all along
…practices for developing relational presence, the capacity to be authentically you while staying connected to others
…tools for turning toward tender places where you've experienced aloneness and misunderstanding

This is about coming home to the relational being you've always been, underneath all the protective patterns that made sense once upon a time.

We're living through a time of unprecedented disconnection. We're carrying historical imprints of familial and social systems and cultural patterns that taught us to prioritize productivity over presence, performance over authenticity.

And still, your nervous system remembers how to be in healthy relationship. We just need to create the right conditions for that remembering to emerge.

This series weaves together everything I've learned from decades of sitting with people in their most vulnerable moments. It's:
▹ more than cognitive, it’s somatic, relational, and experiential
▹ trauma-informed, honoring your wise protective knowings
▹ shared power-with, acknowledging the impacts of how systemic oppression shapes our capacity for connection
▹ designed with different nervous system needs in mind

We'll work with the body, and practice being in relationship. Between you and you, with me, and with the others who join us on this journey.

If you're interested in relational healing, you belong in this space.

The Relationally Rooted Series, offers building blocks to stack and grow, centering experiential practices that support presence, connection, and repair. It's an in-person 3 workshop series, held on Fridays from 4:30p-8p at The Living Room at Full Circle in Gardiner, NY.
You're welcome to join a single session or move through the full series.

▹▹ Turning Toward | 9.26.25 Practices for presence, inner connection, and staying with what matters without abandoning yourself inside hard moments.

▹▹ Boundaries and Edges | 10.24.25 Practices for clarity, congruence, and relational integrity to help you sense, honor, hold and trust your internal boundaries.

▹▹ Rupture and Repair | 11.21.25 Practices for holding complexity inside moments of disconnection to help you return to a felt sense of okayness, presence and repair, within yourself and your relationships.

If you've made it this far, perhaps something in your system is saying yes. I'd be deeply honored to walk with you on this relational healing journey.

With warmth and presence,
Rebecca

P.S. - I offer an equitable fee scale and trust you to choose the pricing tier that genuinely reflects your financial capacity while contributing to the sustainability of this work. Plus $25 off when you register for all three workshops in the series together.

About Rebecca Wong, LCSW

Rebecca has been walking alongside people in their relational healing journeys for over 20 years. Her work weaves together somatic practices, relational presence, and trust in the wisdom of your nervous system. She's trained in The STAIR Method, Somatic Experiencing, Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Intimacy From The Inside Out, and Deep Brain Reorienting, among other modalities. Rebecca lives in New York's Hudson Valley on Lenape land with her partner, teens, and handful of four-legged mischief makers.