Shena Tubbs joins me to talk about how early trauma manifests in our adult relationships. Persistent love addiction/love avoidant adult relationships are often a recreation of early trauma, of seeking out people that would do the same, in hopes that it will turn out differently. Healing begins with getting the language and words around family trauma and what did/didn’t happen and then practicing the skill of loving yourself, which carries over into how you do relationships.
Systemic racism is real and deeply rooted in society. When we center our society around whiteness but don’t discuss it we’re ignoring the problem of racism. Distancing ourselves from the problem of racism is to perpetuate it by allowing countless more injustices to be committed. When we become conscious we can take responsibility and change course. The opposite of being a racist is not being not-racist. The opposite of being racist is being antiracist.
In this episode relationship therapist and host, Rebecca Wong, talked with Emily Nagoski, New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are & Burnout. It goes without saying that we’re all living in a deepened state of stress in this pandemic time. Emily helps us to understand how stress affects sex and learn more about what we can do to reclaim confidence and joy and transform our sex lives.
I'd like to introduce you to TMI Project, a nonprofit near and dear to my heart, that uses writing and true storytelling for social justice movement building, to ignite human connection and as a healing modality for personal transformation. I have gone through the workshop as a participant and became a trained facilitator of their methodology. I recently sat down with Eva Tenuto, the co-founder and executive director of TMI Project, to talk about how storytelling can enhance connection and resilience during times of social isolation.
Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP (AKA Jules) joins me to discuss the impact of being quarantined at home, experiencing isolation, fear and grief — how these experiences work in tandem with our implicit memory systems —what the effect it all has on our relationships is and what we can do to build resilience.
Dr. Shideh Lennon, a clinical psychologist and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, joins us to discuss how to embody resilience during the current COVID-19 pandemic. We talk about simple practices that we can all use to bring ourselves back into our bodies. We’re still going to feel it all, but these tools may help increase our capacity by being our biggest best selves, so that we may bear and be with all that's arising.
Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen joins me to discuss how to avoid common pitfalls and achieve more secure relationships. We talk about how our need to connect is locked in a dance with our insecurities. How our defensive, protective strategies are activated when we feel insecure. Our guard goes up, we go behind a wall, or get critical of others and push them behind a wall. Blocking ourselves from having what we need the most, secure connection. And this is why we need to cultivate safe sacred space to deepen our awareness around how these adaptations to our insecurities inadvertently increase our pain and loneliness rather than cultivate security.
